I have a plastic concept of
family. In my case, blood relations are not a main thing to say that someone is
part of my family or not. I have a mother, a grandmother, and many aunts: I grew
up in a femenine world. Parents are absent in my family, but I was raised with
a cousin that is like my brother. I don’t have a regular family, and I don’t
think that “regular families” exist, in anycase. In my concept, family is a
large concept, also made up by close friends and non-human animals, because it isn’t
strictly a matter of blood, but one of love.
In my family, values like
community and dialogue are important. For example, there are some Pinochet’s
supporters in my family, but with all the discussions that we’ve had, that
support is lower every time, because in my family dialogue is more important
than personal convictions. These values are expressed in some rituals that we have
as a family: every night, we have dinner, and smartphones are not used by
anyone!
However, discussion about a “concept”
of family is pointless, because when we define concepts, what we do is cristalize
things in the world, and things like family are characterised precisely for its plasticity. This discussion is important in a juridical sense, but in daily
life family is simply our relationships with others.
As I’ve said, family is a kind
of relationship with others, and we can include many kinds of relationships in
this, like friendship. Friends are important for us, and they can be “like”
family, but in most cases we don’t live every day with friends. In this
aspect, family has an important carachteristic: persons live toghether. Persons
who live toghether (non-blood family too) make a special kind of link, that can
be called family, because they know people in an intimate way.
In our society, concept of family
is very large, and that produces more tolerance. If I were to have a family in
the future, I hope that it is a continuation of family that I currently have,
including my cats!







